What Would Louise Say?
Anyone else a big Louise Hay fan? Besides being an award-winning author and the founder of the most successful publishing company for spiritual and self-development books, Louise was a woman I could completely relate to. She had 11 kids and was married to a Pakistani man. Just kidding. But, she was born into a poor family, experienced extreme abuse which led to an early life of low-payingdead-end jobs, dropping out of college, moving around without any direction, and a string of abusive relationships. It wasn’t until her later years that she encountered a Renaissance of herself where she finally realized how she was creating her life, and she could create something different. At 50 years old, Louise Hay was diagnosed with "incurable" cervical cancer, and she discovered that by holding on to her resentment for her childhood abuse and rape her body was letting her know it was time to let it go. She started to explore her inner world and ultimately mapped out the language that our body speaks to us with through our symptoms. Louise took it a step further by creating affirmations that could respond to the body with the specific kind of love it was asking for, and in doing that, create a whole new life for people. She not only healed herself from the cervical cancer, but it was the beginning of the most prolific period of creativity and financial success of her life. She lived to the ripe old age of 90, passing away in her sleep just last year.
Whenever anyone in the family gets sick or hurt, I always ask myself “What would Louise say?” Louise taught me that our body speaks, and we need to listen to it. We need to pay attention to it because it reveals the inner experience that we are often unaware of. What’s even more remarkable is how transparent our body really is in communicating to us. Louise mapped out an a-z list of the body’s symptoms and what the body is trying to tell us through each symptom. Just a google search away under “Louise Hay and the spiritual meaning of symptoms” and you can become aware of what your body is telling you. There are many sites that post her a-z list, and this is one of my favorites because it includes the affirmations you can repeat, preferably in the mirror, to create a new experience:
Here are just a few of the ways the Louise’s list has come in handy just in the last month.
- Many of you might be aware of my 30 day challenge to lead with my feminine side and discover the power in it. In times of stress, I act aggressively and lead with my masculine and it inevitably ends with me regretting it. After a month of dressing up in girl’s clothes and reaching out to girlfriends to create fun, collaborative projects, intentionally healing anything left in my relationship with my mom, and with my daughter, I’ve ended up with a nagging pain in my left elbow. A doctor would suggest a costly MRI, my husband would give me his smelly elbow brace and tell me to ice it, so, what would Louise say
ELBOW PROBLEMS: Not being flexible, not able to change directions or accept new experiences.
Affirmation: I easily flow with new experiences, new directions and new changes.
LEFT SIDE OF BODY: The feminine side. Represents receptivity, taking in, women, mother, love.
Affirmation: My feminine energy is beautifully balanced.
My left elbow pain comes and goes, but when I feel it, I’m reminded that I need to repeat the affirmation. It’s like my elbow is leaving me a post-it note. Just last week my elbow left a note saying “Was it really necessary to be so defensive with your husband, it’s just a car?” And I said back, “You’re right, elbow, I easily flow with new experiences, but come on, no one likes a white car.”
- I haven’t been sick in years, but yesterday I couldn’t even begin to tell myself the lie that I wasn’t sick. My sinuses were blocked, I had sore throat, congestion, deep chills and very low energy. This wasn’t a post-it note, this was one of those of singing telegrams from a guy in a gorilla suit. My body was trying to get my attention in no uncertain terms. What would Louise say?
SORE THROAT: Holding in angry words. Feeling unable to express the self.
Affirmation: I release all restrictions, and I am free to be me.
SINUS PROBLEMS: Irritation to someone, usually someone close to you.
Affirmation: I choose to declare peace and harmony with all the individuals around me. I surround myself with love and goodwill.
COLDS: Too much going on at once. Mental confusion and disorder.
Affirmation: I allow my mind to relax and be at peace. Clarity and harmony are within me and all around me.
CHILLS: Mental contraction. Pulling away & in. Desire to retreat
Affirmation: I am safe & secure at all times. Love surrounds me & protects me. All is well.
Just two days ago I had set a huge boundary with my brother who only calls when he needs help. I’ve avoided setting this boundary for decades. It was painful because I realized I could have done this so many years ago and not suffered all these years feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick. I thought I was over it, I mean I cried for like a day and had a few tantrums in the house, but I thought I was done. Apparently I wasn’t. I’m just aware now that I looked it up that I need the affirmations to create something different. It’s not enough to set a boundary, you also need to create intentionally. I didn’t lose my brother, I just lost the story that I have to rescue him. And now I’m free to create something new.
While I was in the “C’s” I noticed Cerebral Palsy. I was curious because my son Viktor has cerebral palsy. You would not believe what Louise had to say:
CEREBRAL PALSY: A need to unite the family in an action of love.
Wow! I’ve been saying for years that Viktor really took one for the team because it’s brought us so much gratitude and humility. We are truly united in love when it comes to Viktor.
Our body’s language deserves attentive listening and deciphering. The body often tries to get our attention subtly and if we can’t get the message, it begins to demand it through uneasiness, blockages or even illnesses. It requires attention for itself, or for other needs inside that we are often not yet aware, and getting to understand it is the key to healing.
What is your body telling you?