Big Ideas

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I mentioned a few weeks ago in my blog that I wanted to try my hand at keynote speaking.  That big idea walked right into my living room talking a big game.  He was like, “Brenda, you could totally do this! You pretty much write speeches all the time!  That bedtime story you told last night about the witch wetting her pants – you nailed it!”  And this big idea was unwavering – he was like, “It doesn’t matter that you’re a home school mom with 10 kids… think about all that spare time you have when you’re stirring that pot of spaghetti – what is that like, 30, 40 seconds?  That adds up!  That’s speech writing time! And when you’re refereeing that huge argument your kids have in the car – record that!  The world totally needs to hear that.   And think about it, what kind of people listen to speeches anyway?  Yeah, that’s right, grown-ups do.  Think about that…you’ll actually be having conversations with fully grown people!”

 

I know I’m not alone here.  Everyone has big ideas.  We all have visions of ourselves as someone different and better than who we think we are now.  But when we start down that path to create those different results, it’s not that easy!   We either stop when we have a creative block, or an epic fail moment, or things aren’t moving fast enough, and we throw in the towel.  I tried a very poorly timed stand up comedy career for about a year when the kids were just starting to learn how to walk, and after several very embarrassing moments, I just couldn’t bring myself to ever speak to that idea again.   I felt like it intentionally suckered me in and toyed with me and then left me the laughing-stock of town for all the wrong reasons.  It left me completely gun-shy to try to reinvent who I think I am.

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After enough time passes though,  those ideas start thinking they can hang out with you again like nothing ever happened between you.  But this time you’re a little more guarded and have honed in on the art of dodging their passes.  Believe me, I’d love to sit down and work on a meaningful message for my Ted Talk but, ugh, my kids really want me to work on the Moana themed puppet show.  Or, I’d love to go workout when the kids are down for bed, but my husband really needs me to watch that new series on Netflix.   I really want to start on my novel, but right after this game on my iPhone.

 

And sometimes you aren’t just procrastinating and making up your own silly excuses.  Sometimes it’s life throwing major wrenches in your big idea plans.  You commit to go workout at 5am and you do it for a few days and then one night your son (or 3 of them…) is sick with the flu and keeps you up all night.  Or you hire a babysitter so you can spend one hour working on your children’s book but the babysitter cancels last-minute, or the electricity goes out because of a storm, or one of your kids has a seizure, or you have to go back to work because of the medical bills.  What now? Why does it seem like life is always getting in the way of our biggest ideas and goals?

 

I know I’m not alone here.  Everyone has big ideas.  We all have visions of ourselves as someone different and better than who we think we are now.  But when we start down that path to create those different results, it’s not that easy!   We either stop when we have a creative block, or an epic fail moment, or things aren’t moving fast enough, and we throw in the towel.  I tried a very poorly timed stand up comedy career for about a year when the kids were just starting to learn how to walk, and after several very embarrassing moments, I just couldn’t bring myself to ever speak to that idea again.   I felt like it intentionally suckered me in and toyed with me and then left me the laughing-stock of town for all the wrong reasons.  It left me completely gun-shy to try to reinvent who I think I am.

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So what’s happening here?  Are the realities of life working to keep us stuck?  Or is it the opposite?  Do we experience difficulties and creative blocks because of our beliefs about what we are worth?  About what we are capable of and what we think we deserve?

 

It’s really not a surprise why these big ideas come knocking.  They come from the inspired parts of ourselves looking to overhaul stale and limiting beliefs.  No matter who you are in the world, there is always somebody who is in a set of circumstances more difficult than yours who has managed to push through to create something powerful and different for themselves.

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So, this time I decided not to pass this big idea off onto the next person.  I decided this house guest was not a pest or a nuisance.  This big idea that marched in with an attitude was here to help me grow.  To urge me to push past my excuses, my limiting beliefs, and break through into a different way of relating to myself.  I looked at what I needed to get me through all of this. I needed help to beat my belief system. So I got myself an accountability coach, a comedy writing buddy, I paid for another chunk of keynote speaking lessons, did some research to find out who is already doing what I want to do when I grow up, then made juicy twelve month end goals of an e-book a TED talk, and 3 paid speaking gigs.  And, as it turns out, those stand up comedy classes I took a few years ago are totally coming in handy.   I’m ready to take this mountain.  What’s your big idea?

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